Communique No. 6: For Whom the Wedding Bells Toll

Crowd in support of Gay MarriageBefore I get to the point, I spent greater than half my life up to this point more or less hiding and simultaneously wrestling with a very major component of what makes me who I am. It’s neither the single biggest nor the foremost component, true, but to pretend it’s not firmly in the top ten at least would, in my view, be to continue being dishonest, both to myself and to the people I love. With that in mind, my frequent discussion of the topic of late is hopefully a bit more understandable. Also, compared to the challenges one faces after the fact, coming out is the easy part. Anyone can publish an online letter or use social media to announce their previously hidden sexuality, but the real question for those who do is, “Are you prepared to handle what comes next?” It’s important to answer that question honestly, otherwise a man might very quickly find himself in a situation he’s not quite ready to tackle.

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Christianity and gay rights: why they aren’t as opposed as you might think

The Soulforce Equality Ride doesn't always receive a warm welcome. (Photo: Ivan Boothe; quixoticlife on flikr)

On the occasion of Equality Ride‘s visit to Oral Roberts University this next week, some further discussion of the issue of Christianity and gay rights is warranted. In case you’re wondering, I’m aware that ORU officials will probably read this post. While I have enjoyed my time at ORU and respect the institution, let it be clear that I am an independent thinker who fully intends to speak his mind on issues of import, even if my thoughts contradict the ideological status quo at the university where I study. I welcome a discussion, but any attempt to prevent free and open discourse on this issue will be met with respectful defiance. Also, I’ll probably offend every persuasion somehow with what I say here, so it’s all good.

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The Problem with Christian Political Opposition to Gay Marriage

Rick Santorum speaking at an event in Des Moines, Iowa. (Photo: Gage Skidmore)

In an appearance before a crowd of college students in New Hampshire yesterday, Rick Santorum was jeered and booed in response to his opposition to same-sex marriage. The exchange, which at one point degenerated into a back and forth over whether or not allowing same-sex marriage would open the the door to polygamy, highlighted a recurring problem with the conservative opposition to same-sex marriage: their approach is wrong. Continue reading