Princess RoomI had my first crush when I was eight years old. And, by “first crush,” I mean my “first gay crush.” I suppose one could say that there had been others. I still remember the first day of pre-Kindergarten when I marched right up to the prettiest little girl in class and gave her a huge kiss, right on the lips. I’d most likely seen a movie recently–probably one of those romantic films from the 50s and 60s my mother liked to watch where kissing scenes stood in for bedroom scenes–and had felt it would be cool (in the way that four-year-olds do) to emulate what I’d seen. It is, therefore, entirely accurate for me to say I kissed a girl and I did, in a sense, like it. The teacher had seen the impending-PDA coming seconds before it happened and, though she hastily yelled for us to stop, she was too late–llips had locked. I had a rebellious streak even when I was four and took great pleasure in her scolding me afterward but having no ability to change what had happened: I’d won, and nana nana boo boo.

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Communique No. 6: For Whom the Wedding Bells Toll

Crowd in support of Gay MarriageBefore I get to the point, I spent greater than half my life up to this point more or less hiding and simultaneously wrestling with a very major component of what makes me who I am. It’s neither the single biggest nor the foremost component, true, but to pretend it’s not firmly in the top ten at least would, in my view, be to continue being dishonest, both to myself and to the people I love. With that in mind, my frequent discussion of the topic of late is hopefully a bit more understandable. Also, compared to the challenges one faces after the fact, coming out is the easy part. Anyone can publish an online letter or use social media to announce their previously hidden sexuality, but the real question for those who do is, “Are you prepared to handle what comes next?” It’s important to answer that question honestly, otherwise a man might very quickly find himself in a situation he’s not quite ready to tackle.

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Christianity and gay rights: why they aren’t as opposed as you might think

The Soulforce Equality Ride doesn't always receive a warm welcome. (Photo: Ivan Boothe; quixoticlife on flikr)

On the occasion of Equality Ride‘s visit to Oral Roberts University this next week, some further discussion of the issue of Christianity and gay rights is warranted. In case you’re wondering, I’m aware that ORU officials will probably read this post. While I have enjoyed my time at ORU and respect the institution, let it be clear that I am an independent thinker who fully intends to speak his mind on issues of import, even if my thoughts contradict the ideological status quo at the university where I study. I welcome a discussion, but any attempt to prevent free and open discourse on this issue will be met with respectful defiance. Also, I’ll probably offend every persuasion somehow with what I say here, so it’s all good.

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